Kiss and Make Up

Today, August 25th, is the anonymously anointed “Kiss and Make Up Day.” These modern “holidays” have little historic meaning, but Jewish Treats would be remiss in not noting that the “holiday” falls within the Hebrew month of Elul.

Elul begins the 30-day countdown to Rosh Hashana, the Jewish New Year. Rosh Hashana is also Yom Ha’din, the Day of Judgment. On the first of Tishrei, God judges the world as a whole, each nation and each individual, and determines what will be their fate in the year to come.

As preparation for the Day of Judgment, Elul is a time of teshuva, repentance – an opportune time for self-reflection and making amends. In fact, it is more important that a person put things right between him/herself and his/her fellow humans than asking God for forgiveness for any particular sin against Heaven.

For this reason, the month of Elul is a time when many Jews make extra efforts to repair damaged relationships. This may be as simple an act as paying back the $5 a friend lent back in March. It may also entail the far more difficult task of seeking out a family member or an acquaintance and confessing/apologizing for hurtful behavior (wrongfully blaming them for something, gossiping about them, etc.).

While “kiss and make up” is a cute way of expressing this very important process of creating peace between people, teshuva is a serious and meaningful process. People should not seek forgiveness unless they really are sorry for what was done.