This week the Torah celebrates the marriage of Yitzchak and Rivkah (Isaac and Rebecca). In their honor, Jewish Treats presents to you an excerpt from Rabbi Ephraim Buchwald’s “Keys to a Happy Marriage.”
The advice, based on the 3,300-year-old Jewish tradition, is timeless and applicable to modern couples of all backgrounds.
1. Marriage unplugged — Set aside a night each week to tune out the world, tune into each other and focus on the reality of your own lives. (Might we suggest Shabbat.)
2. United we stand — The chuppah, or canopy, that a couple stands under during a Jewish wedding ceremony signifies the home they will build together — symbolically reminding all present that the couple is becoming a unit.
3. Marriage is not all wine and roses — During a Jewish wedding ceremony, wine is sipped to symbolize joy; later, the ceremony concludes with the breaking of a glass calling attention to the fact that life is not always joyful. Yes, your wedding day should be one of the happiest of your life, but keep in mind that you’re sure to face tough times, both big and small — from lost jobs to clogged toilets.
4. Save it for your spouse — Ever notice that religious Jews dress very modestly? It’s not because they’re ashamed of their bodies, but rather because they save their sensual side for their spouses. Keep that in mind the next time you dress for a night out with your pals. Yes, you should look your best, but reserve the seductive stuff for those nights you stay at home alone with your spouse.
5. Thou shalt not embarrass thy spouse — Treat your spouse with respect and admiration in public, as well as in private, and you can expect the same in return. For the complete article, please click here